'Y'all have GOT to raise your standards': Woman jokes about fiancé not knowing her full name and birthday when booking a joint flight

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Dec 26, 2025 12:00 PM EST

Sometimes you think you really know someone, then you realize that this couldn't be further from the truth.

With all the ways in which we grow and change, getting to know a person that we are close to can be a lifelong process. After all, none of us has complete access to the interior lives of others, and it could be argued that we are never truly sure what somebody else is thinking.

These gaps in understanding can also be a lot more basic and pedestrian than trying to dive into the murky depths of someone's soul. It is amazing how far we can sometimes get in relationships without grasping certain facts about our partners. For example, my mom likes to tease my dad about how, after several years of marriage, he asked her if she could play a musical instrument (he had never seen her touch anything more musical than a karaoke machine).

While we can all be guilty of not filling in the gaps when it comes to getting to know our partners, there are levels to this. Maybe there is some slightly obscure icebreaker question that you don't know the answer to, but you should be aware of the essentials. It gets to a point where it stops being funny and starts being concerning. 

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  • janea @heyyitsjanea y'all have GOT to raise your standards
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  • At a bare minimum, when we are in a relationship with someone, we should be aware of two main things: any specifics about their health, and all of those mundane pieces of information that we find when we fill out any kind of form. If you or your partner is failing in those areas, it is time to take a long, hard look at things.

    This was the conclusion of many when a woman shared a text that she had received from her fiancé regarding a flight that we was booking for both of them. He asked her to confirm her full name and date of birth. While some people felt that there may have been valid reasons behind this, others could not quite believe what they were seeing. You would think you would know this information about someone if you were going to marry them.

  • Sometimes you gotta read your fiancé text and go on with your day Jenicolehoover
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  • MA !! ? Text me full name and dob so I can book our flights Reply Attach Sticker Copy Translate A More... @nicolehoover
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  • pope papíO @THEEsimphunter Replying to @heyyitsjanea He's capable of booking a flight but not capable of remembering her birthday or full name???? Yeah no you cannot be lonely enough to tolerate your FIANCE out of all people not caring to know basic details about you
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  • openthefridge @openthefridge Replying to @heyyitsjanea he could be double confirming tho…....
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  • 10 Firstname Lastname... @_717jayden Replying to @openthefridge and @heyyitsjanea You shouldn't have to fucking confirm your girlfriend's full name and date of birth. I'm doing my girlfriend's passport application alone as I type this out and I don't need her help with any of the info
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  • Fiona Writes & Tra... @IjewemenFortun2 Replying to @heyyitsjanea How does your fiancé not know your full name and DOB??? and DOB I even know my bro gf full name It's like the basics
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  • Feer @simplymsnobody Replying to @heyyitsjanea It is definitely normal if he is just a boyfriend But fiancé ? No this is not acceptable
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  • Skylar Skye ❤ @SkylarSkye3 Replying to @heyyitsjanea How are they together but don't know each others date of birth what the hell
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  • OFU KUY Yifu @dataTranslator Replying to @heyyitsjanea I mean... Is he an asshole or idiot? I'm idiot so I have a little notebook with her info and all the airline membership numbers.
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  • Nkechi K. @NkechiKwenu Replying to @heyyitsjanea I had to reread this several times before noticing what was wrong. as in... the stupidity didn't even register. as in... my brain couldn't even comprehend the headassery. as in... just don't even book it. you're a placeholder now.
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  • Jennifer Hlad @jhlad Replying to @heyyitsjanea I totally agree. BUT I sometimes double check the birth years of my parents, whose birthdays I have known for like 40 years, because I get worried that I will somehow get it wrong.
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  • Jenn Strout | KeyLink |... @StroutMotivateU Replying to @heyyitsjanea he won't even buy her shoes, no surprise she accepts bare minimum
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  • kash@kashiasmith Replying to @heyyitsjanea the amount of men who come into my job and can't tell me their wife and/or kids dob is insane. it makes me so mad
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  • miss gurl @shes_rADIAnt I would call off the engagement ngl. What an awful partner!
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  • dana :D @ur4everangel people be marrying anyone
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  • Anthony @lambdanthony Protip: if you're a forgetful person and you don't want to look like a moron/jackass like this guy, make an entry on your phone's notes app and record every piece of information your gf gives you in it
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  • mitski's crack baby @Sonaleeey even your enemies and the demons in the world would know your birthday ....
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  • Certified Boogeywoman @Baelizean "You can't want better for someone that doesn't want better for themselves" is what I tell myself when these types of videos cross my fyp
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  • soggy broccoli @soggybrocoli he uses chatgpt for everything i cant prove it but i just feel it
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